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Bankruptcy and death – two things most of us would rather not think about. Similar to our blog on Bankruptcy and Divorce. It’s not pretty, but it does happen. So, here’s what you need to know.

An estate planning lawyer can help with many things, like preparing your will, helping you make sure you communicate your end-of-life decisions. Most importantly, an estate planning lawyer can help make sure your assets transfer to the person(s) you wish to receive those items after your death.

But what happens if a death also involves bankruptcy?

Situation: You have declared bankruptcy, then get an inheritance

An inheritance after you’ve declared bankruptcy can seem to be a saving grace. But as with bankruptcy and divorce, timing is everything.

When you file for bankruptcy, a bankruptcy estate is created with a trustee to administer your assets. The inheritance can be added to those assets if you are in bankruptcy when your friend or relative passes away.

  • Under Chapter 7 bankruptcy, any cash you inherit is added to your total assets to help pay down debt. Property like cars or houses, unless exempt, will be liquidated and added to your estate.

However, any inheritance received more than 180 days after filing will remain your property. Note that the court uses the date of death as the inheritance date, not the date the inheritance is received.

  • Under Chapter 13 bankruptcy, the timing of the inheritance may not matter as much. The judge can choose to add your inheritance into your total income, increasing the amounts of your repayments.

Situation: You receive an inheritance from someone who has declared bankruptcy

When a person dies, they can pass their possessions along, but not necessarily their debt. But the inheritance may not end up coming to you if it is required to pay down the deceased’s debt.

  • Under Chapter 7 bankruptcy, the deceased’s assets are already under the care of the trustee. Debts will be paid off until the bankruptcy is discharged. Any non-empty remaining property is then passed to the heirs.

An Estate Planning Lawyer or Michigan Bankruptcy Attorney Can Help

If you are in one of the situations described above, an estate planning lawyer or bankruptcy attorney can help you navigate the courts and your options.

We can work with you to discharge your debt or help ensure you receive the inheritance you deserve.

You can also consult with an estate planning lawyer to set up a living trust for your property. In some cases, property in a trust will not be considered part of the bankruptcy estate. Property isn’t just a home or car. It can include family heirlooms and even cash.

Although a trust sounds like something only a very wealthy person might consider, almost anyone can set up a trust to save their heirs from dealing with probate or the additional challenges of bankruptcy after death.

Need help? Contact Michigan Bankruptcy Attorney Stephanie Krane-Boehmer

Stephanie Krane-Boehmer is an expert Michigan bankruptcy attorney and estate planning, lawyer. Stephanie is happy to help you with all your estate planning questions. Although dealing with legal matters can be intimidating, she will put you at ease with her experience, expertise and down-to-earth approach.

We are located in Rochester Hills and serve Oakland, Macomb, Genesee, Lapeer Livingston, and Wayne Counties. We are here to support you through all aspects of your legal proceedings.

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If you are parents who are not living together, are seeking separation, or going through a divorce, you may be looking for parenting plan examples.

A parenting plan outlines how parents who do not live together will make important decisions regarding the care of their children.

An Emotional Process

Dealing with custody issues can be emotionally draining, and parents want to protect their children during negotiations as much as possible. Your Michigan divorce attorney or family law attorney can provide advice on how to discuss the divorce with your children, and how to create a parenting plan that focuses on your children’s needs.

While custody seems to be simply a matter of where your children will live, there are many other factors that need to be agreed upon.

Although agreeing on a parenting plan arrangement might not come as easily as you would hope, the Law Office of Stephanie Krane-Boehmer can help you understand the child custody process and make it go a little more smoothly.

Parenting Plan Examples Online

A search for “parenting plan examples” can bring up many valuable results to help guide your decisions; however, a decision should never be made without an attorney. Make sure the results are relevant to the laws in your area and look carefully at the source. Good parenting plan examples should cover:

    • Communication
      What is the critical information you will need to communicate, how often and how (e.g., by email or face-to-face only). How do you communicate in an emergency? Are children allowed to communicate with you when they are with the other parent? Is a communication schedule needed?
    • Parenting time
      Where will the children live? If you’re splitting time, how will it work, and what are the transportation arrangements?  What about daycare / after school care and babysitting – are there any concerns, and who is responsible for the costs?
    • Extra-curricular activities
      How will you manage the child’s social life (e.g., sports, school outings, summer camp, friends’ birthdays) – who is responsible for managing the activities and arranging payments?
    • Visits with extended family
      Does your plan need to address visits with uncles/aunts/grandparents?
    • Vacations & Holidays
      How will you arrange holiday time, especially traditional family holidays like Thanksgiving?
    • Notifications for Travel / Moving
      Good parenting plan examples should include guidance on stipulations around travel, especially travel outside the country, or moving anywhere that will make it difficult for the other parent to visit.
    • Education
      How will you make arrangements around choices of schools to attend? Who will receive school reports and notifications? Who attends school teacher conferences, who is informed of any issues at school, and who is allowed to take the child out of school?
    • Medical
      Look for parenting plan examples that also detail medical needs, like who will be responsible for medical decisions/insurance and who will be responsible to make emergency medical decisions.

Completing your Parenting Plan

While you may find good parenting plan examples online to help guide your decisions, it is recommended to either have a qualified family law attorney or mediator review your plan, or draft your final plan before submitting it to the court.

Family law attorneys have a lot of experience working on parenting plans and will be able to think of things you may not have found in the parenting plan examples you used.

Once your parenting plan is complete, it can be presented to your case manager, custody manager, or judge. If both parents agree on the plan, the judge can be asked to make it a court order as part of the settlement to ensure the parenting plan is legally enforceable.

Parenting Plan: The Best Interests of the Child

The Michigan Family Court system makes final custody decisions based on the best interests of the child.

A good parenting plan – especially one agreed on by both parents – can help the judge make determinations on what is best to take care of the child’s emotional, medical and educational needs.

Looking for a divorce attorney in Rochester Hills?

If you’re looking to create a parenting plan, you need a divorce attorney that you can trust and feel comfortable with. Contact the law office of Stephanie Krane-Boehmer in Rochester Hills Michigan for help with navigating divorce matters. Stephanie will support you through mediation, litigation, parenting arrangements, child support, and division of property.

We are located in Rochester Hills and serve Oakland, Macomb, Genesee, Lapeer Livingston, and Wayne Counties.

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Going through bankruptcy and divorce can be a complicated and emotional process. It’s not easy for anyone. Unfortunately, on top of the emotional considerations of ending a marriage, and the financial factors of dividing assets, at times a divorce can also land one or both spouses in the position of needing to file for bankruptcy.

In addition to having significant impacts on the outcome of a divorce, adding bankruptcy in Michigan on top of divorce adds complications and stress. Look for help where you can, and be sure to choose a lawyer with a solid understanding of both aspects of your case.

Different proceedings, different courts…what is the best way to handle your bankruptcy and divorce?

While divorce proceedings in Michigan are handled in the state court system, bankruptcy is always filed in the Federal United States Bankruptcy Court. Two different courts in two different systems. Two different systems that don’t always communicate easily with each other.

A key part of your lawyer’s work will be to ensure the right documents are filed in the right courts at the right time. And while that may seem simple, there are many factors to consider.

Timing of your bankruptcy and divorce is one important factor. Do you file before, during or after your divorce?

In short, it depends on your situation, and your lawyer can be a valuable resource to help you decide what is best for you.

When is the best time to file for bankruptcy when divorcing?

Filing for bankruptcy before your divorce can make the divorce proceedings go smoother. If it’s beneficial to both spouses, you can file for a joint bankruptcy and share the associated fees and costs to save yourselves time and money. There are also exemptions that you can use to your advantage when you file jointly.

Filing for bankruptcy during your divorce proceedings can complicate your divorce. Why? Because a filing in a federal court takes priority over a divorce in the state courts. As a result, filing for bankruptcy during a divorce triggers an “automatic stay” (or halt) to the divorce proceedings until the bankruptcy is settled. Your assets will be tied up as property can’t be transferred until the bankruptcy is settled.

Filing after a divorce can also have advantages as long as your Judgment of Divorce contains language that contemplates the filing of a bankruptcy.

What about Alimony, Support Payments and Debts?

Despite the difficulty of handling both legal issues at one time, life goes on. The court system has made allowances for some important aspects of divorce during process.

  • Alimony & Support Payments – child support and alimony payments are considered priority debts, and cannot be discharged during a Chapter 7 bankruptcy. While some may want to use that to avoid these payments, a qualified Michigan family law attorney who also specializes in bankruptcy law will be aware of the rules, and take steps to stop these types of motions in their tracks.
  • Joint Debt – a key part of a divorce is to divide assets…and debt. This means the type and amount of debt that is discharged through your bankruptcy proceedings will depend on the state of your divorce proceedings and the type of bankruptcy you choose.
  • Assets and Property – the automatic stay when you file for bankruptcy freezes your assets and property. This means you won’t be able to touch your assets until your process is complete. For this reason, many choose a Chapter 7 (if eligible) so they can pay off debts and complete their divorce more quickly.

Sounds a little confusing? It can be. That’s why a qualified attorney familiar with both bankruptcy and divorce proceedings can be a huge support as you navigate the many decisions to be made when you are facing both bankruptcy and divorce.

Need some help? Contact the Law Office of Stephanie Krane-Boehmer for your separation, bankruptcy and divorce matters. We are located in Rochester Hills, and serve Oakland, Macomb, Genesee, Lapeer Livingston, and Wayne Counties. We are here to support you through all aspects of your filings, mediation, litigation, parenting arrangements and division of property.

Although dealing with legal matters can be intimidating, we will put you at ease with our experience, expertise and down-to-earth approach.  Our mission is to achieve the best results for you as you work through the many challenges of bankruptcy and divorce.

Keep in touch with Stephanie Krane-Boehmer on Facebook

If you and your spouse have come to the decision that you’re going to divorce and you have children, the conversation regarding how to tell them was likely brought up. It’s important to spend some time planning with a divorce lawyer on how to speak to your children about divorce to help mitigate any feelings of blame that they might develop.

If you and your spouse aren’t currently speaking to each other or are unable to speak calmly and rationally, you can consider using a mediator or counsellor to help plan the details.

Have a Joint Conversation With Your Children

It’s important to try to have a conversation with your children together as their parents. This will reassure them that in spite of divorcing and not living together, you’re still their parents and nothing about that will ever change.

During this conversation, you can also explain why you’re getting a divorce. While it’s not necessary to share the exact details, and how you approach this will depend on how old your children are, it’s imperative to provide your children with the “why” so that they can better understand and internalize this change. When having this conversation, remaining calm will help shape your children’s reactions and decrease feelings of anxiety regarding the anticipation of this change. Explanations such as “We won’t be married anymore but we will still be your parents” or “We love you very much but we’ve decided it’s best if your parents just stay friends” are sensitive ways to explain what’s happening.

No matter how mature your children might seem, this is an adult situation that they won’t fully understand. As a result, you do not need to share specific details and it’s encouraged to try your best to stay neutral and think of your children’s feelings throughout this process.

Understanding Your Children’s Reactions

Divorce is an emotional process and your children will react according to how they feel. Often, these can be intense, confusing emotions. Recognizing and accepting how your children react is going to help them during this process. Using phrases such as “We understand” and “Thank you for sharing your feelings” will help reassure your children that both of their parents are accepting of their reaction and are here to help navigate their feelings with them during this time.

If your children are in school, some parents going through divorce choose to let their children’s teachers know. This allows their teachers to pay attention to any behaviour changes when parents are not around. Your child’s school might also have a school therapist or counsellor that your children could talk to. Encouraging them to talk about their feelings with you but letting them know they can also talk to other adults, might help them become more willing to open up.

Explain Any Changes

Depending on the ages of your children, they’ve most likely developed some routines and it’s important to consider how a divorce is going to impact their routines and lives. Consider addressing any changes such as which parent is moving out, when they can expect this to happen, how often they can expect to see both of their parents. If your children have any questions, answer with honesty and if you don’t have the answers yet, let them know that too.

If the decision to divorce is recent and nothing has been made official yet, having a divorce lawyer to help with the legal aspects of child custody, child support and parenting will help you spend more time focusing on your children and yourself during this time. A divorce lawyer can inform you about mediation options and ensure that your rights and your children’s rights are protected.

If you’re looking for a divorce attorney that you can trust and feel comfortable with, contact the law office of Stephanie Krane-Boehmer for help with navigating divorce matters. We are here to support you through mediation, litigation, parenting arrangements, child support, and division of property.

An estimated 46 million people appear in family courts across the country each year, for cases involving divorce, custody, child support, guardianship, and housing. Surveys conducted have shown that in recent years, 75% or more of these cases have at least one self-represented litigant. The number of people representing themselves in court seems to be increasing, which is a concern for many in the legal community. Cases involving self-representing individuals tend to take longer to resolve, contributing to a growing backlog in the family court system, not to mention that people self-representing are at a distinct disadvantage in court.

Self representation isn’t always the first choice for people, but many may feel they have no other options because they do not have access to legal aid or have the financial resources to hire a lawyer. Others believe that self-representing, especially in divorce cases, will save money. However, there are plenty of reasons why representing yourself in court is a significant risk.

Saying or Doing the Wrong Thing

Preparing for a court case requires extensive preparation and a thorough understanding of the court system. Even if you are well-prepared and well versed in the system and you have a logical argument, it is easy to become emotional. You may end up turning to a defensive argument rather than sticking to facts and rational arguments. Without any experience in a courtroom, many self-representing people end up making incriminating statements or saying things that can easily be used against them by the other side.

Familiarity with the Process and Rules

Before making the decision to represent yourself in a divorce case, you should familiarize yourself with all of the steps involved. Pay careful attention to any deadlines or mandatory filings that are required by the court. Missing a deadline or overlooking a step could mean delays or cost you the opportunity to reach the settlement you want. It’s very challenging for an inexperienced and untrained person to ensure that all of the bases are covered before going to court.

The Courts Don’t Go Easy on You

If you represent yourself, don’t expect any special treatment in the courtroom. The court staff and the judge are not likely to coach you or give you any leeway if you make a mistake. It is their job to remain impartial and consider the arguments only. There is also some evidence that judges consider the arguments of self-representing individuals to be more likely to be biased. Overcoming bias can be a significant challenge for self-representing people arguing a divorce case.

Set Your Expectations

Litigants who choose self representation often have unrealistic expectations for the outcome of the case. Judges base their decisions solely on the law and the presented arguments and facts. So, if your expectations are unrealistic, getting what you believe is a fair settlement may be more difficult than you think.

Think About Alternatives

Preparing for and arguing a divorce case in court requires extensive legal knowledge and skills. If you are considering self representation, find out more about the options available to you for affordable legal aid, especially when child custody and child support are involved. Getting professional representation will ensure that you get a fair settlement and that your rights as a parent are protected.

Stephanie Krane-Boehmer is a divorce lawyer in Rochester Hills, Michigan. Stephanie’s goal is to make the process as comfortable for you as possible and will treat you with respect and compassion. Call 248-293-0048 or request a consultation online to get started.

Going through a divorce can take its toll. Many people don’t feel like themselves for quite a while after. It is important to know that you are not alone and that over time, you will adjust and find a new normal. As a family law attorney for Auburn Hills, Troy, Rochester Hills and the surrounding area, I have 10 tips on things you can do to help you and your family recover.   

1. Give Yourself Time

It is common, after divorce, to feel the urge to move on immediately. But your relationship probably didn’t break down quickly, and the divorce process may have been drawn out. So don’t assume that you’ll recover from the trauma overnight. Give yourself a whole year to adjust to new routines and getting through milestones like holidays and special events. 

2. Take Care of Yourself

Focus on looking after your needs first. Ensuring that you get enough rest and maintain a healthy diet will make it easier for you to deal with the stress and handle the things that haven’t changed, like caring for kids, work and other obligations.

3. Exercise Your Frustrations Away

Vigorous physical activity releases endorphins which promote feelings of well-being. Not only will you rid yourself of feelings of frustration, but you’ll feel better for having made a healthy choice.

4. Be Sad

While your situation may have changed, there were good times and happy memories as well. Treat the breakdown of a marriage as a loss and allow yourself to grieve without feeling guilty.  

5. Slow it Down

Take the time to recognize that the emotional upheaval of recovering from a divorce is exhausting. You may feel like you have less energy and feel more tired. So slow down your life a little until you start to feel more energetic. Take a break from volunteering or from your side hustle and enjoy a little more time off. 

6. Talk to People

You may feel like you don’t want to talk to anyone about your divorce or recovery experience. However, if the people around you know what you’re going through, they can help support you. Just be sure you say thanks, but no thanks to those people who offer you advice. What worked for them may not be appropriate for you.  

7. Support the Kids

Children are often caught in the crossfire during a divorce. They can sometimes fall into feeling like they are to blame or feel helpless about their new situation. Be sure that they get the support they need to adjust without taking on any of the stress.   

8. Get Support for Yourself

It helps to align yourself with a group of people who may have experienced divorce and recovered in a healthy way. Look for a support group in your area and regularly attend the meetings to regain your sense of stability. 

9. Do it Your Way

Understand that there is no recipe for recovery from divorce. You may have good days and bad days, advances and setbacks. Take care of yourself and your children, and don’t put pressure on any of you to ‘get over it.’ 

Perhaps you have recently realized that filing for divorce is the best option for your family or are beginning to considering it. Either way, get in touch with a family law attorney to answer your questions and help you navigate the process. A divorce lawyer can inform you about mediation options and ensure that your rights and the rights of your children are protected. The Law Office of Stephanie Krane-Boehmer is here to help you with separation and divorce matters, including child custody and parenting agreements. Call us for an appointment or book a virtual consultation on our website. 

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